I dive into my first post …March 24, 2010 at 4:32 PM | Posted in 60: New Rules of the Road | 7 Comments
Tags: Anthony De Mello, Seth Godin
I dive off the blocks into my third blog and this time my hips are high and I am in streamline. Blog I must: I want to make a contribution, a gift to my readers. I’ve been held back by the Lizard (as identified in Seth Godin’s Lynchpin).
Godin makes a striking point when he says that what makes art art is that there is no map. Agreed: we don’t want to be told what to do and when we wake up we realize that we don’t want to tell other people what to do either. In this blog I want to express but I don’t want to insist – because I am not sure of anything for other people. I’ve changed my mind about so many things.
On February 28, 2010 I became sixty. I had been looking forward to this birthday and did a countdown for a year. I wanted to feel the year, feel the daily drumbeat of opportunity or dread. I truly longed to be sixty. My father died at fifty-three and this sixth decade was a landmark. It has turned out to be more than I had hoped: it has turned out to be a release.
I have begun a new initiative: 60: New Rules of the Road. The first new “rule”:
#1: I will not venture forth in the day with a feeling of negativity or enmity toward anyone or any situation.
- Identify the negative feelings in myself.
- Understand that the negative feelings are in me, not in the world, not in external reality.
- Do not see these negative feelings as an essential part of me.
- Understand that when I change, everything changes.
I have used this method for a while and have found it effective. De Mello advises its use thousands of times and he is right: the Lizard is always lurking.